Was she being selfish?

Good day beautiful people. I've had this issue on my mind since yesterday. Not that it's any of my business but I think, but I'll like you all to share your opinion on this matter...

I'm a religious listener of Sharing life issues with Wana on Inspiration FM. Yesterday, a lady called anonymously to share a secret eating her up for the past 17yrs.

She's married to a wonderful man, but found out that he couldn't have children due to low sperm count, even with treatments his case wasn't improving, so she said she had this friend in Kenya, when she went visiting, she met with him and in the process she got pregnant. She didn't tell him she was married oh, she went ahead and had the child, not even telling her husband the child isn't his. She even went ahead and had 2 more kids from this same Kenyan guy without him knowing. Now she has to live with this secret and she says it's killing her. She said she did what she did for her husband. Well, I can't judge her oh, like we say in Warri, na she wear the shoe so na she know where e dey pinch her.

A few people called to air their opinions, but there were 2 callers who I think made sense. The male caller said she should live with the secret till it blows, that's if it does oh, because she has saved the man embarrassment and if he does find out then she can open up and tell him her reasons for doing it.

The other caller said the woman was being selfish. That she could have adopted kids or if she knew she really wanted her own biological children she should have gotten pregnant and left her marriage.

Some how I agree with both callers sha oh! But really is marriage all about having children! I thought marriage was for companionship? And children are blessings from God.

This has been on my mind since yesterday and really I don't know why I'm so worried for this woman I don't even know. The poor Kenyan sperm donor who doesn't even know he has kids in Nigeria nkor? Or the poor husband who has been training another man's children for the past 17yrs! Na wah oh!

I really need your opinion on this matter, was her act a selfish one for trying to save her marriage?

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Gigi

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10 comments :

  1. She should live d man n go her own way bcos children na d gain 4 marriage o

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  2. Interesting one, yeah marriage should be most about companionship becos at old age the children won't be there, but more so should be blessed with kids, becos that's what a family is all about, the lady would have discussed with her husband before taking any decisions in the first place, I believe they both would HAVE reached a compromise since he was aware the child bearing problems where from him. After a while d truth wud surface and I can imagine d damage it would cause

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  3. nkiru (screensaver)November 6, 2013 at 1:34 PM

    I don't think she planned for dt pregnancy to occur but decided to keep it when it came,this is a case of doing something bad,u looked at it and only considered d good sides of it nd then went ahead to do more bad/worse things to either continue wt what u did or to hide it. 17 looooonng years.....hmmmm.This kind of thing has a way of rearing its ugly head and starring us in d face wen we least expect it. She ws tryn to save her marriage forgetting dt ds isssh will not only tear her marriage apart,it'll also affect those children,like d caller said,d deed has been done,let her live wt it till d pack of cards comes crashing.

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  4. I would say at all at al na im bad pass, who am I to judge her? But if I were in her shoes I would have jst a child with the Kenya donor and adopt 2 more kids, so if it blows the hubby would undastnd she loves him enough to cover his shame my 2cents

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  5. if she has kept the secret for 17yrs, she might as well keep it till he/she dies and if he finds out, confess her reasons why........unless the Kenyan man don jam money

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  6. Like I said, I can't judge this woman but she get heart oh! I pray it never blows open sha.

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  7. I think her husband knows the kids are not for him, but he is quiet, Since the woman didn't say anything. After all he was given the Result of his test and so he knows. Its even possible he has had another test to ascertain his status when the kids started coming, without telling his wife. Even if he didn't go back to be tested,he should be able to ask How come babies always come after his wife's trip to kenya.

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  8. This case my sister I listen too. Society has turned marriage into something else. If you don't get pregnant in marriage it's like u are an outcast. She said she did it to save the man. If the man were in her shoes will he do the same for her. He'll 'No'. Since she knew the man was incapable of having children the two of them for arrange to adopt pikin and even Form say the woman get belle so they can stay off preying eyes. This thing must blow that is life for u and in a very funny way she won't expect. Make she save the money she fit get and move on seriously.

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  9. This case my sister I listen too. Society has turned marriage into something else. If you don't get pregnant in marriage it's like u are an outcast. She said she did it to save the man. If the man were in her shoes will he do the same for her. He'll 'No'. Since she knew the man was incapable of having children the two of them for arrange to adopt pikin and even Form say the woman get belle so they can stay off preying eyes. This thing must blow that is life for u and in a very funny way she won't expect. Make she save the money she fit get and move on seriously.

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    1. My dear sister na true you talk oh. I hope she get savings sha.

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